This One Thing Proves You Were Meant For Each Other

The One Thing That Proves You’re Meant For Each Other…

Let him into your heart

Do you have a big heart?

I mean, are you good at loving people?

If so, your ex would be crazy not to let you back into his life. Here’s why.

They say the meaning of life is to find your gift. And the purpose of your life is to give it away.

But in order to give away your gift, someone must receive it.

So who should you give it to?

I think you already know the answer.

But we’ll come back to that in just a sec. Because, first I need to make a prediction.

I predict you already have a mental image of one man in your thoughts right now. As you read these words, you can picture his face.

But thinking of him brings up mixed emotions. Because you know how good you could be together. You know how much potential this relationship could have.

Yet there’s pain there too. And that pain comes from the fact that something is blocking you from giving away the greatest gift a person could ever receive. Your love.

(By the way, If you’d like to skip ahead to see my laser-targeted advice about getting your ex to talk to you again, check out my Relationship Rewrite Method here).

You see, I specialize in helping women like you. As a relationship coach, my favorite kind of client is a woman with a gift for loving deeply.

A person who just needs a little boost to overcome the obstacle that stands between her and the romantic bliss she deserves. I mean, let’s face it…

When you’ve shared a special connection with someone, it’s hard to let it go.

Especially when you know there’s still a lot of potential if he would just open his heart again!

You could build a beautiful life together.

If that’s something you want, then it’s worth fighting for.

But here’s a question for you…

If you’re so good at loving people, why not just settle for some other guy? Why not pour your love into a guy who adores you, but triggers none of your own instincts for affection?

What if it’s the pudgy guy with poor social skills and body odor? What if he appreciates your love more than anyone you’ve ever met? Should the two of you elope?

Of course not. And here’s why.

He will prevent you from giving away the most precious gift you possess. True love. Deep affection, admiration, desire.

Mutual desire. That’s the golden ticket. And that’s also why it’s not a good idea to hide your feelings for your ex.

Too many of my clients want to hold their cards close to their chest. “I’ll only reveal my true feelings if he goes first.”

I get so tired of hearing that. Because it means I have to find a way for her to send an encrypted message that says, “I will only become the woman you need if you first prove I am the woman you want.”

Do you see why that doesn’t work?

Playing hard to get has its place, but not with your ex.

If you want to win back your guy’s heart, there’s something else you should know…

Showing you still like him isn’t enough.

There are plenty of other women who will show they like him. And they don’t have to overcome the wall he’s built up because of your history together.

They don’t have to overcome his “been there, done that,” attitude about seeing where things could go with you.

Overcome his distant attitude

The fact is, those are obstacles you must overcome. But the good news is, you can succeed with the right approach.

You just need to get past the barriers that are currently keeping the two of you apart. And for that, I have a solution.

It’s called the Relationship Rewrite Method, and its power comes from one simple fact…

Emotions run the show.

No matter how stubborn he is, and no matter how “logical,” his decisions are, he’s human. Which means emotions drive his decision-making more than anything else.

Emotions begin to steer his actions before decisions even enter the equation. Because emotions determine what he wants in the first place.

Here’s the secret to getting back with your ex. Forget about convincing him to give things another try. Focus instead on changing the way he feels.

Focus on his interests and feelings

If you like the idea, but you’re not sure where to start, I invite you to take a shortcut.

I’ve watched what works and what doesn’t for many years. And I’ve assembled those insights into a series of steps anyone can use.

If you’re the kind of person who likes to learn the hard way, I understand and I wish you the best of luck. But if you’d rather not reinvent the wheel, I have a short video that describes more about it.

Discover the Relationship Rewrite Method here. It could be the beginning of a new chapter with your ex, just waiting for you to turn the page.

Oh, wait. You’re still waiting to learn the one thing that proves you’re meant to be together?

Well the answer is simple, really.

You see, I’ve noticed something about people. Something about the way the human mind works.

Expending energy goes against our instincts. That’s why it’s hard to get yourself off the couch to go for a jog.

Yet something happened in your mind when you read the title of this article. I didn’t name any guy in particular. Yet it was your ex who came to mind. The guy who pulled away. The guy with emotional walls to keep you out.

And despite all the obstacles you have to overcome, your emotions still draw you toward that man. That tells me something no match-making personality test ever could.
It tells me your heart has already chosen. Now we’re just waiting for destiny to catch up.

PS: to give destiny a nudge, check out what I have for you here.

Your Only Shot at Getting Back Together

Is This Your One Shot at Getting Back With Your EX?

If you had something beautiful going with your ex…

And you know you could be great together…

Then it’s worth taking one more shot at rekindling the romance with him. Because an emotional connection like that doesn’t happen every day. It’s worth fighting for.

If you want to skip ahead to see what some people are calling the “one last shot formula,” crafted by relationship expert, James Bauer, then click here. Otherwise, hang tight and I’ll explain how this works.

Pause for just a minute to answer this question. What’s the one obstacle to getting back together with your ex? What’s the one thing getting in the way?

If you’re like most women James has consulted with, your answer would go something like this: “The biggest obstacle is getting past his emotional walls.”

You see, the problem isn’t making him love you again. Your history together proves there’s already enough chemistry. Nope. That’s not the problem.

Here’s the real problem. He won’t consider it in the first place. He closed his mind to the possibility. And in many cases, he won’t even contact you.

I guess what it boils down to is this. He has already decided not to give you a chance.

That’s the barrier. That’s the emotional wall you’re up against.

But what if I told you it’s not so much of a wall as it is the illusion of a wall? What if it’s a barrier you can move past whenever you want once you know the secret?

That would change things, wouldn’t it?

Earlier, we said the biggest problem is that he’s already decided not to give you a chance. The key word there is “decided.”

But here’s the weird thing about the way humans make decisions. We don’t start with a decision. Decisions are just the end result.

Decisions are just the output of a different kind of mental calculation. Decisions come after the equals sign.

That’s why you can almost never change someone’s mind by going after the decision directly.

Think back to the last time you saw a person trying to change someone else’s mind. If they focused on attacking the decision itself, they almost certainly failed to change the other person’s mind.

Now let me show you the solution to that problem.

Decisions can change in the blink of an eye. They are not static. They are dynamic, changing continuously as new input updates his mental simulation of the future.

Scientists have recently discovered something interesting about us humans. When relaxed, our minds drift to the future. We sometimes contemplate the past. We sometimes focus on the present. But 80% of the time our mind is imagining the future.

Predicting the future is something we do on autopilot. And that’s where you’ll find an opening to take one last shot at rekindling the romance with the guy who has shut you out.

We make complex mental simulations of the future. And we do it almost continuously.

If you’re not consciously focusing on something, there’s a good chance your mind is picturing your future to predict which paths will lead you to happiness and fulfillment.

Here’s why this is good news for getting your ex back. You can change what a guy feels when he pictures you in his life again.

James Bauer calls it the movie trailer method.

Basically, it’s a step-by-step set of instructions for tinkering with the “movie trailer” that plays in his head anytime he sees your name pop up on his phone, or your picture in his Facebook feed, or your car in the parking lot.

If you start small, you can change the dominant emotions he associates with you. You can become someone he imagines himself with.

In his imagination, he’s no longer resolving old arguments with you, but exploring a whole new relationship with you instead.

Discover his love once again

So how do you do it?

How do you tinker with the movie trailer playing in someone else’s head? That’s the topic James explores in detail, starting with the very first text message, and ending with advanced techniques.

But for the purposes of this article, we’ll zero in on just one cool idea.

Ready? Okay, here it is…

Taking your one last shot comes down to choosing the right target.

Don’t set your sights on fixing the relationship, or changing his mind, or “giving things another try.”

Instead, notice the opportunities to change the primary emotions that color his imagination whenever he thinks of you.

You’d be amazed at the difference this can make it. Because the truth is, emotions run the show.

The biggest mistake people make is spending their energy on things that reawaken his reasons for pulling away. Little reminders of things that went wrong when you were together.

Don’t make that mistake.

Instead, put every ounce of your attention on just one thing. The primary emotion he feels each time gets a text message from you, sees you on the street, or hears your voice on the phone.

Because if you can change the emotions he associates with you, the mental pictures playing in his head will start to change all on their own.

Do that, and you will amaze yourself. You’ll move mountains. His little emotional walls won’t stand a chance.

P.S. Another thing about human nature is that we’re better at following through when we have a step-by-step guide.

If you’d like to get your hands on a step-by-step method for changing the way your ex feels about you, click here to see the full explanation from James.

If Your EX Understands This, Everything Will Change.

If only your ex really understood what you want.

His attitude would change instantly.

If he knew what you really wanted, he would stop ignoring your texts.

If he understood your motivation, he would be the one initiating contact.

If he could see how you really feel about him, he would realize you’re the one.

If you could just erase the past and start fresh, he would fall in love with you all over again.

In this short article, we’re going to look at each of these “problems,” so you can see how to use them to your advantage. Because each one is an opportunity in disguise.

Hi, my name is James, and I’m excited to share a method to help you reawaken the passion your ex once felt for you.

(If you’re short on time, you can follow this link to skip straight to the solution now. Or, stick with me as I walk you through a few easy steps to reawaken trust, desire, and excitement between you and your ex.)

Some people were meant to be together.

I believe this firmly. Not because of some mystic belief in destiny, but because of the way some people bring out the best in each other.

Now, I get it. You and your ex may have gone through some rough patches where it didn’t feel like you were bringing out the best in each other.

And maybe that’s even part of why he pulled away. But I bet those rough patches did not define your relationship.

I bet your relationship unlocked something beautiful in your emotional world and his. And I don’t blame you for wanting to reawaken that passion so you can start building your shared story as a couple again.

If that’s something you want, then this article for you. Because I’m about to give you a huge advantage as you interact with your ex from this point forward.

Here’s what I’m going to do. It sounds simple, but please don’t dismiss it at face value. I’m going to change your mentality. I’m going to change the way you see the challenge before you.
If you install this new mentality, everything will look different from now on.

You’ll begin to see opportunities where you did not see them before. The new lens will reveal all kinds of hidden paths to reach his heart. Ready to get started? Okay, here we go.

Let’s start with the first opportunity.

If he knew what you really wanted, he would stop ignoring your texts.

What does he think you want?

He probably thinks you want to convince him of something.

Maybe he thinks you want to convince him to give things another try.

Or maybe he thinks you want to convince him that the breakup was all his fault. Maybe he thinks you want to convince him that you could still be friends.

Whatever the case, if he’s ignoring your messages, he doesn’t understand what you really want.

Because if you really love him, you want nothing more than to make him happy. You’re offering a gift of infinite value.

You’re not begging for anything. Rather, you’re offering something. Because you’re able to see all the beauty and potential your future relationship holds.

That’s the first mentality I want you to hold onto. You’re not asking him to do you a favor. Afterall, you’re the one who has something valuable to give.

If he understood your motivation, he would be the one initiating contact.

Is your motivation to trap him?

Are you dead set on making him feel guilty? Do you hope to get in the way so he never breaks free from the past?

If not, you should be aware there’s a good chance he fears one or more of these motivations when he sees your number pop up on his phone.

How will he feel when he sees your call?

And it’s not because you’ve done anything wrong.

Rather, it’s because he’s avoiding negative emotions. And that’s just human nature.

People are wired to avoid pain. Especially when there’s uncertainty involved. Why let you back into his life when he’s focused on the possibility that it will just invite more pain?

Here’s the mentality shift for this one…

You don’t need to get back into his life. You just like him the way he is, right now.

He doesn’t need to change anything or do anything. You’re just one of the people in this world who genuinely appreciates the man he is.

If he understood that motivation, he would be the one initiating contact.

If he could see how you really feel about him, he would realize you’re the one.

There’s this former monk by the name of Dandapani who says “energy is like water.”

He points out that watering a garden encourages the growth of plants, both flowers and weeds. The water can’t tell the difference between flowers and weeds.

In that sense, he says the energy of your thought is like water. Because whatever you focus on will grow, good or bad.

When the energy of your thought focuses on negative things, it causes negative emotional and physical changes.

In contrast, when you focus on what’s good, you bring more happiness, success, and ease into your life.

Now, if you’re feeling stuck when it comes to your ex, it’s only natural that you might accidentally let your focus dwell on the problems.

Without realizing it, you may be letting the energy of your mind dwell on problems, or just snap to problem-solving mode whenever you reach out to your guy.

So here’s the new mentality I want you to absorb…

There are no problems between you and your guy.

Become happy together

Let the energy of your mind flow toward anything that is beautiful, good, pleasant, fun, or happy whenever you think about him, message him, or interact with him. He will sense the difference.

If you could just erase the past and start fresh, he would fall in love with you all over again.

Okay, this one’s a little bit different.

We both know you can’t technically erase the past. But I’ve discovered an interesting method that comes pretty close—at least when it comes to his emotional world.

I call it the movie trailer method. And if you follow this link to my short video explanation, you’ll see why.

It’s a method I designed after years of working with clients who want to change the automatic emotional reaction a person has to them.

It only takes a bit of leverage to nudge a boulder toward the edge of a cliff. Then gravity takes over and does the rest of the work for you.

With the movie trailer method, you’re nudging his emotions, which will do the rest of the work for you once they start working in favor of your relationship.

I hope these ideas have moved you toward a more resourceful and empowered state of mind.

If you want to continue learning about this method, watch this video:

Using Logic Vs Emotional Triggers to Get Your EX Back! Do’s and Don’ts.

When you’ve shared a special connection with someone, it’s hard to let it go.

Especially when you know there’s still a lot of potential if he would just open his heart again.

You could build a beautiful life together.

If that’s something you want, then it’s only natural you would try to convince him that he should give the relationship another shot. After all, convincing him feels like the right thing to do.
Why would you not try to reason with him? Why wouldn’t you try to show him he’s making a mistake by pulling away?

Yet this is one of those times in life when our instincts lead us awry. Because convincing your ex never works. Fortunately, I know something that does.
Triggering feelings.

(By the way, If you’d like laser-targeted advice about getting your ex to talk to you again, check out my Relationship Rewrite Method presentation).

Here’s the thing, triggering feelings will always trump logical argument.

Why? Because emotions run the show. We humans are not as rational as we’d like to believe. That’s true of all forms of decision-making, but especially when it comes to matters of the heart.
Emotion. It’s your best shot at winning him back.

I care about all my clients. But I have to be honest, sometimes a client’s story tugs at my heart and it gets personal for me. That was the case with Leah, a mother of five, the oldest of whom was born when she and the father were both seventeen, just high school sweethearts.

I’ll admit there was a judgmental part of me that thought Leah and Joel had been incredibly irresponsible to start having children while they were still children themselves. But I soon forgot all about that as I learned of the beautiful family they had created together, only to be torn apart by a short series of missteps and what I’ll call “almost-infidelity.” First by one, and then (in reaction) by the other.

Leah sought out my professional services first. Joel had moved out three months earlier.

Joel joined us a few sessions later. He was complacent with me and defiant with Leah. He had his mind made up. The hurt was just too great. But he claimed it was because Leah was “crazy.”
Leah, on the other hand, was not ready to let go of what they shared.

She had fire in her eyes every time she spoke directly to Joel in our sessions, demanding that he stop living the life of a bachelor, pursuing other women while her life began to look more and more like that of a single mother, just struggling to get by.

And this is where things get complicated for me. It was hard for me to maintain professional objectivity. You see, I wanted to convince Joel as well. I wanted to jump in with Leah and fight for this little family to survive.

Fortunately, I knew better.

So I privately began to teach Leah the techniques I’m going to share with you today. Let me show you the difference between convincing your ex versus triggering the right kind of feelings.
The easiest way for me to illustrate the difference between convincing your ex and triggering feelings is to offer you a simple list of do’s and don’ts. So let’s get right to it.

Don’t Do This:
Don’t argue that he owes you an explanation since you know he still has feelings for you.
Don’t tell him the relationship was going just fine and then try to get him to own his share of the blame for why things began to fall apart.
Don’t imply he owes you something after all you’ve been through together.
Don’t tell him real relationships take work and he needs to grow up.
Don’t try to prove you shared something special by forcing him to acknowledge specific examples from your past.

All that telling, convincing, and arguing will get you nowhere. In fact, it will simply reinforce the painful emotions that are driving him away from you in the first place.
Why? Because his brain will automatically come up with counter arguments.

For example, if you tell him things were great in the past, he will immediately test the truth of that assertion by scanning his memories for contradictory evidence. He’ll think of the fights, the frustrations, and other low points.

He’ll mention those problems. And this will reinforce your efforts to convince. You’ll end up showing him your worst side. Angry. Desperate. And if that goes on too long, you’ll become bitter, resentful, and maybe even sarcastic.

You know it’s true. This is how we all react when something matters to us deeply but the other person refuses to be convinced. This is not what I want for you to show him. Don’t try to convince.
Instead, let his emotions do the work for you.

Do this: (I’ll explain each of these briefly after listing the techniques.)
Build a private line of communication.
Use private flirting but not broadcast flirting.
Be vulnerable about struggles interfering with your goals.
Throw rocks at his enemies.
Make time your servant.
Build a Private Line of Communication

Here your goal is simple. Completely eliminate any communication via channels where others can observe his responses to you. Then ensure you have at least one private method for communicating with him directly. Text messaging is the most common method for achieving this.

Why not communicate on social media channels like Facebook? Because privacy releases him from the human compulsion to remain consistent. We don’t like to appear inconsistent. Psychologists call this “the consistency bias.” Once we have publicly committed to something (like a breakup) we feel foolish showing any sign that we are wavering or may have even made the wrong decision.

So your job is to completely remove that threat by eliminating any communication in public settings.

Don’t talk to him in front of the kids. Don’t talk to him in front of your friends or his friends. Don’t ask him to meet you in a public place for coffee and a chat.

He won’t even notice you’re not communicating with him publicly. Without realizing why, he’ll feel more open to exploring where things could go with you.

Just send him a pleasant message once every four or five days. Something you knew he would find interesting, funny, or exciting. Nothing about your relationship. No convincing.

Only send the kinds of messages that gradually condition him to expect that pleasurable little rush of dopamine you get when you open your favorite email newsletter or text messages from a friend who is good at making you laugh.

Don’t demand any kind of response. Just keep the doors of communication open.

Use Private Flirting but Not Broadcast Flirting

I wrote an entire article on this one powerful concept. For now, I’ll just share this simple explanation.

Broadcast flirting is on display for everyone to see.

When a woman uses broadcast flirting, everyone around can see what she’s up to.

For example, it’s broadcast flirting when Debbie laughs at all Daniel’s jokes at the office party and purposefully compliments him in front of others. Exclusive flirting is different.
Think of it like an exclusive club. There are only two people in the club, and the two people share something exclusive.

This is another reason your private line of communication is a must. You need an avenue to bring up insiders-only stuff like an inside joke or a reference to a funny moment only the two of you would remember.

Any message like that evokes the right kinds of emotion. It evokes the emotions that naturally arise from feeling part of something special. No convincing is needed.

Be Vulnerable about Struggles and Goals

Once your private line of communication is up and running, it’s time to step things up a notch.

Many brilliant people have talked about the power of vulnerability, including Brené Brown who has recently popularized the concept while helping us all to understand its true power. But I have a more specific purpose in mind for you.

If you are honest about goals you care about, and the struggles that block your way, it naturally triggers his hero instinct. It increases the chances that he’ll want to come to your rescue in big or small ways.

And for men, being someone’s hero is romantic in ways that are hard for women to understand. It tugs at an ancient instinct all of us men share.

Throw Rocks at His Enemies

It sounds cruel, but I mean it metaphorically. We all want someone to have our back. We all crave validation more than we are willing to admit.

And guess what? Your private line of communication is the perfect opportunity for him to complain about anyone or anything that’s getting in his way.

When it comes to your ex, this is an ideal opportunity to put “the respect principle” to work.

The respect principle is the main topic of the downloadable relationship course that first made me famous as a relationship coach. Thousands of women have taken my course and used the respect principle to bring out the best in their man.

Simply put, men confuse the emotional sensations they get from love and respect. And if forced to choose, they would rather feel respected than loved.

So when the frustrated text arrives, recognize it as the golden opportunity it is. Because we will do anything for someone who validates our frustration and takes our side when we are feeling insecure.

Give him the impression that you hold him in high esteem relative to other men. He’ll love you for it even if he’s not ready to admit it.

Make Time Your Servant

Waiting is hard. Especially when you fear his heart may be taken by another woman at any minute.

But feeling pressured to fix things fast is one of the worst culprits when it comes to my clients pushing men into a corner and inadvertently triggering his instinct to fight or flee.

Don’t let time pressure be a master. Instead, make time your servant. Make it work for you.

The key to accomplishing that is to recognize that time is on your side. He’s already pulled away from you. That’s done. Now you need time on your side because it works day and night to gradually break down the emotional walls he built up against the idea of getting back together with you.

Give a man and a woman enough time together, and something’s bound to spark romantic feelings eventually. Give it enough time, and your private line of communication will eventually present you with an opportunity to see each other again face-to-face.

When that opportunity arises to spend time in person, here’s what you’re going to do. Make long, deep eye contact. Less talking, more silence.

Silence carries great power between lovers. It speaks louder than words and often evokes emotion in ways that bypass the barriers of words.

Plus, sustaining eye contact while thinking loving thoughts toward him will cause your pupils to dilate. Humans subconsciously notice this small change and it triggers reciprocal feelings of attraction.

So use periods of long, sustained eye contact. Make him wonder what you are thinking. Let his imagination do the work.

While you’re at it, it helps to wear something new and different. It helps to differentiate the woman from his past and the woman standing in front of him now. If you have the opportunity, show up in something he’s never seen you wear before.

I understand your situation is unique. Some of my suggestions may not apply. Despite that, I hope you will find opportunities to use this understanding of the difference between convincing and evoking the right feelings in the man you love.

To your happy future,
James

P.S. I’d love to help you rekindle the romance with your ex. If you’d like to see how, follow this link or checkout my presentation below.