This One Thing Proves You Were Meant For Each Other

The One Thing That Proves You’re Meant For Each Other…

Let him into your heart

Do you have a big heart?

I mean, are you good at loving people?

If so, your ex would be crazy not to let you back into his life. Here’s why.

They say the meaning of life is to find your gift. And the purpose of your life is to give it away.

But in order to give away your gift, someone must receive it.

So who should you give it to?

I think you already know the answer.

But we’ll come back to that in just a sec. Because, first I need to make a prediction.

I predict you already have a mental image of one man in your thoughts right now. As you read these words, you can picture his face.

But thinking of him brings up mixed emotions. Because you know how good you could be together. You know how much potential this relationship could have.

Yet there’s pain there too. And that pain comes from the fact that something is blocking you from giving away the greatest gift a person could ever receive. Your love.

(By the way, If you’d like to skip ahead to see my laser-targeted advice about getting your ex to talk to you again, check out my Relationship Rewrite Method here).

You see, I specialize in helping women like you. As a relationship coach, my favorite kind of client is a woman with a gift for loving deeply.

A person who just needs a little boost to overcome the obstacle that stands between her and the romantic bliss she deserves. I mean, let’s face it…

When you’ve shared a special connection with someone, it’s hard to let it go.

Especially when you know there’s still a lot of potential if he would just open his heart again!

You could build a beautiful life together.

If that’s something you want, then it’s worth fighting for.

But here’s a question for you…

If you’re so good at loving people, why not just settle for some other guy? Why not pour your love into a guy who adores you, but triggers none of your own instincts for affection?

What if it’s the pudgy guy with poor social skills and body odor? What if he appreciates your love more than anyone you’ve ever met? Should the two of you elope?

Of course not. And here’s why.

He will prevent you from giving away the most precious gift you possess. True love. Deep affection, admiration, desire.

Mutual desire. That’s the golden ticket. And that’s also why it’s not a good idea to hide your feelings for your ex.

Too many of my clients want to hold their cards close to their chest. “I’ll only reveal my true feelings if he goes first.”

I get so tired of hearing that. Because it means I have to find a way for her to send an encrypted message that says, “I will only become the woman you need if you first prove I am the woman you want.”

Do you see why that doesn’t work?

Playing hard to get has its place, but not with your ex.

If you want to win back your guy’s heart, there’s something else you should know…

Showing you still like him isn’t enough.

There are plenty of other women who will show they like him. And they don’t have to overcome the wall he’s built up because of your history together.

They don’t have to overcome his “been there, done that,” attitude about seeing where things could go with you.

Overcome his distant attitude

The fact is, those are obstacles you must overcome. But the good news is, you can succeed with the right approach.

You just need to get past the barriers that are currently keeping the two of you apart. And for that, I have a solution.

It’s called the Relationship Rewrite Method, and its power comes from one simple fact…

Emotions run the show.

No matter how stubborn he is, and no matter how “logical,” his decisions are, he’s human. Which means emotions drive his decision-making more than anything else.

Emotions begin to steer his actions before decisions even enter the equation. Because emotions determine what he wants in the first place.

Here’s the secret to getting back with your ex. Forget about convincing him to give things another try. Focus instead on changing the way he feels.

Focus on his interests and feelings

If you like the idea, but you’re not sure where to start, I invite you to take a shortcut.

I’ve watched what works and what doesn’t for many years. And I’ve assembled those insights into a series of steps anyone can use.

If you’re the kind of person who likes to learn the hard way, I understand and I wish you the best of luck. But if you’d rather not reinvent the wheel, I have a short video that describes more about it.

Discover the Relationship Rewrite Method here. It could be the beginning of a new chapter with your ex, just waiting for you to turn the page.

Oh, wait. You’re still waiting to learn the one thing that proves you’re meant to be together?

Well the answer is simple, really.

You see, I’ve noticed something about people. Something about the way the human mind works.

Expending energy goes against our instincts. That’s why it’s hard to get yourself off the couch to go for a jog.

Yet something happened in your mind when you read the title of this article. I didn’t name any guy in particular. Yet it was your ex who came to mind. The guy who pulled away. The guy with emotional walls to keep you out.

And despite all the obstacles you have to overcome, your emotions still draw you toward that man. That tells me something no match-making personality test ever could.
It tells me your heart has already chosen. Now we’re just waiting for destiny to catch up.

PS: to give destiny a nudge, check out what I have for you here.

Your Only Shot at Getting Back Together

Is This Your One Shot at Getting Back With Your EX?

If you had something beautiful going with your ex…

And you know you could be great together…

Then it’s worth taking one more shot at rekindling the romance with him. Because an emotional connection like that doesn’t happen every day. It’s worth fighting for.

If you want to skip ahead to see what some people are calling the “one last shot formula,” crafted by relationship expert, James Bauer, then click here. Otherwise, hang tight and I’ll explain how this works.

Pause for just a minute to answer this question. What’s the one obstacle to getting back together with your ex? What’s the one thing getting in the way?

If you’re like most women James has consulted with, your answer would go something like this: “The biggest obstacle is getting past his emotional walls.”

You see, the problem isn’t making him love you again. Your history together proves there’s already enough chemistry. Nope. That’s not the problem.

Here’s the real problem. He won’t consider it in the first place. He closed his mind to the possibility. And in many cases, he won’t even contact you.

I guess what it boils down to is this. He has already decided not to give you a chance.

That’s the barrier. That’s the emotional wall you’re up against.

But what if I told you it’s not so much of a wall as it is the illusion of a wall? What if it’s a barrier you can move past whenever you want once you know the secret?

That would change things, wouldn’t it?

Earlier, we said the biggest problem is that he’s already decided not to give you a chance. The key word there is “decided.”

But here’s the weird thing about the way humans make decisions. We don’t start with a decision. Decisions are just the end result.

Decisions are just the output of a different kind of mental calculation. Decisions come after the equals sign.

That’s why you can almost never change someone’s mind by going after the decision directly.

Think back to the last time you saw a person trying to change someone else’s mind. If they focused on attacking the decision itself, they almost certainly failed to change the other person’s mind.

Now let me show you the solution to that problem.

Decisions can change in the blink of an eye. They are not static. They are dynamic, changing continuously as new input updates his mental simulation of the future.

Scientists have recently discovered something interesting about us humans. When relaxed, our minds drift to the future. We sometimes contemplate the past. We sometimes focus on the present. But 80% of the time our mind is imagining the future.

Predicting the future is something we do on autopilot. And that’s where you’ll find an opening to take one last shot at rekindling the romance with the guy who has shut you out.

We make complex mental simulations of the future. And we do it almost continuously.

If you’re not consciously focusing on something, there’s a good chance your mind is picturing your future to predict which paths will lead you to happiness and fulfillment.

Here’s why this is good news for getting your ex back. You can change what a guy feels when he pictures you in his life again.

James Bauer calls it the movie trailer method.

Basically, it’s a step-by-step set of instructions for tinkering with the “movie trailer” that plays in his head anytime he sees your name pop up on his phone, or your picture in his Facebook feed, or your car in the parking lot.

If you start small, you can change the dominant emotions he associates with you. You can become someone he imagines himself with.

In his imagination, he’s no longer resolving old arguments with you, but exploring a whole new relationship with you instead.

Discover his love once again

So how do you do it?

How do you tinker with the movie trailer playing in someone else’s head? That’s the topic James explores in detail, starting with the very first text message, and ending with advanced techniques.

But for the purposes of this article, we’ll zero in on just one cool idea.

Ready? Okay, here it is…

Taking your one last shot comes down to choosing the right target.

Don’t set your sights on fixing the relationship, or changing his mind, or “giving things another try.”

Instead, notice the opportunities to change the primary emotions that color his imagination whenever he thinks of you.

You’d be amazed at the difference this can make it. Because the truth is, emotions run the show.

The biggest mistake people make is spending their energy on things that reawaken his reasons for pulling away. Little reminders of things that went wrong when you were together.

Don’t make that mistake.

Instead, put every ounce of your attention on just one thing. The primary emotion he feels each time gets a text message from you, sees you on the street, or hears your voice on the phone.

Because if you can change the emotions he associates with you, the mental pictures playing in his head will start to change all on their own.

Do that, and you will amaze yourself. You’ll move mountains. His little emotional walls won’t stand a chance.

P.S. Another thing about human nature is that we’re better at following through when we have a step-by-step guide.

If you’d like to get your hands on a step-by-step method for changing the way your ex feels about you, click here to see the full explanation from James.

If Your EX Understands This, Everything Will Change.

If only your ex really understood what you want.

His attitude would change instantly.

If he knew what you really wanted, he would stop ignoring your texts.

If he understood your motivation, he would be the one initiating contact.

If he could see how you really feel about him, he would realize you’re the one.

If you could just erase the past and start fresh, he would fall in love with you all over again.

In this short article, we’re going to look at each of these “problems,” so you can see how to use them to your advantage. Because each one is an opportunity in disguise.

Hi, my name is James, and I’m excited to share a method to help you reawaken the passion your ex once felt for you.

(If you’re short on time, you can follow this link to skip straight to the solution now. Or, stick with me as I walk you through a few easy steps to reawaken trust, desire, and excitement between you and your ex.)

Some people were meant to be together.

I believe this firmly. Not because of some mystic belief in destiny, but because of the way some people bring out the best in each other.

Now, I get it. You and your ex may have gone through some rough patches where it didn’t feel like you were bringing out the best in each other.

And maybe that’s even part of why he pulled away. But I bet those rough patches did not define your relationship.

I bet your relationship unlocked something beautiful in your emotional world and his. And I don’t blame you for wanting to reawaken that passion so you can start building your shared story as a couple again.

If that’s something you want, then this article for you. Because I’m about to give you a huge advantage as you interact with your ex from this point forward.

Here’s what I’m going to do. It sounds simple, but please don’t dismiss it at face value. I’m going to change your mentality. I’m going to change the way you see the challenge before you.
If you install this new mentality, everything will look different from now on.

You’ll begin to see opportunities where you did not see them before. The new lens will reveal all kinds of hidden paths to reach his heart. Ready to get started? Okay, here we go.

Let’s start with the first opportunity.

If he knew what you really wanted, he would stop ignoring your texts.

What does he think you want?

He probably thinks you want to convince him of something.

Maybe he thinks you want to convince him to give things another try.

Or maybe he thinks you want to convince him that the breakup was all his fault. Maybe he thinks you want to convince him that you could still be friends.

Whatever the case, if he’s ignoring your messages, he doesn’t understand what you really want.

Because if you really love him, you want nothing more than to make him happy. You’re offering a gift of infinite value.

You’re not begging for anything. Rather, you’re offering something. Because you’re able to see all the beauty and potential your future relationship holds.

That’s the first mentality I want you to hold onto. You’re not asking him to do you a favor. Afterall, you’re the one who has something valuable to give.

If he understood your motivation, he would be the one initiating contact.

Is your motivation to trap him?

Are you dead set on making him feel guilty? Do you hope to get in the way so he never breaks free from the past?

If not, you should be aware there’s a good chance he fears one or more of these motivations when he sees your number pop up on his phone.

How will he feel when he sees your call?

And it’s not because you’ve done anything wrong.

Rather, it’s because he’s avoiding negative emotions. And that’s just human nature.

People are wired to avoid pain. Especially when there’s uncertainty involved. Why let you back into his life when he’s focused on the possibility that it will just invite more pain?

Here’s the mentality shift for this one…

You don’t need to get back into his life. You just like him the way he is, right now.

He doesn’t need to change anything or do anything. You’re just one of the people in this world who genuinely appreciates the man he is.

If he understood that motivation, he would be the one initiating contact.

If he could see how you really feel about him, he would realize you’re the one.

There’s this former monk by the name of Dandapani who says “energy is like water.”

He points out that watering a garden encourages the growth of plants, both flowers and weeds. The water can’t tell the difference between flowers and weeds.

In that sense, he says the energy of your thought is like water. Because whatever you focus on will grow, good or bad.

When the energy of your thought focuses on negative things, it causes negative emotional and physical changes.

In contrast, when you focus on what’s good, you bring more happiness, success, and ease into your life.

Now, if you’re feeling stuck when it comes to your ex, it’s only natural that you might accidentally let your focus dwell on the problems.

Without realizing it, you may be letting the energy of your mind dwell on problems, or just snap to problem-solving mode whenever you reach out to your guy.

So here’s the new mentality I want you to absorb…

There are no problems between you and your guy.

Become happy together

Let the energy of your mind flow toward anything that is beautiful, good, pleasant, fun, or happy whenever you think about him, message him, or interact with him. He will sense the difference.

If you could just erase the past and start fresh, he would fall in love with you all over again.

Okay, this one’s a little bit different.

We both know you can’t technically erase the past. But I’ve discovered an interesting method that comes pretty close—at least when it comes to his emotional world.

I call it the movie trailer method. And if you follow this link to my short video explanation, you’ll see why.

It’s a method I designed after years of working with clients who want to change the automatic emotional reaction a person has to them.

It only takes a bit of leverage to nudge a boulder toward the edge of a cliff. Then gravity takes over and does the rest of the work for you.

With the movie trailer method, you’re nudging his emotions, which will do the rest of the work for you once they start working in favor of your relationship.

I hope these ideas have moved you toward a more resourceful and empowered state of mind.

If you want to continue learning about this method, watch this video:

Using Logic Vs Emotional Triggers to Get Your EX Back! Do’s and Don’ts.

When you’ve shared a special connection with someone, it’s hard to let it go.

Especially when you know there’s still a lot of potential if he would just open his heart again.

You could build a beautiful life together.

If that’s something you want, then it’s only natural you would try to convince him that he should give the relationship another shot. After all, convincing him feels like the right thing to do.
Why would you not try to reason with him? Why wouldn’t you try to show him he’s making a mistake by pulling away?

Yet this is one of those times in life when our instincts lead us awry. Because convincing your ex never works. Fortunately, I know something that does.
Triggering feelings.

(By the way, If you’d like laser-targeted advice about getting your ex to talk to you again, check out my Relationship Rewrite Method presentation).

Here’s the thing, triggering feelings will always trump logical argument.

Why? Because emotions run the show. We humans are not as rational as we’d like to believe. That’s true of all forms of decision-making, but especially when it comes to matters of the heart.
Emotion. It’s your best shot at winning him back.

I care about all my clients. But I have to be honest, sometimes a client’s story tugs at my heart and it gets personal for me. That was the case with Leah, a mother of five, the oldest of whom was born when she and the father were both seventeen, just high school sweethearts.

I’ll admit there was a judgmental part of me that thought Leah and Joel had been incredibly irresponsible to start having children while they were still children themselves. But I soon forgot all about that as I learned of the beautiful family they had created together, only to be torn apart by a short series of missteps and what I’ll call “almost-infidelity.” First by one, and then (in reaction) by the other.

Leah sought out my professional services first. Joel had moved out three months earlier.

Joel joined us a few sessions later. He was complacent with me and defiant with Leah. He had his mind made up. The hurt was just too great. But he claimed it was because Leah was “crazy.”
Leah, on the other hand, was not ready to let go of what they shared.

She had fire in her eyes every time she spoke directly to Joel in our sessions, demanding that he stop living the life of a bachelor, pursuing other women while her life began to look more and more like that of a single mother, just struggling to get by.

And this is where things get complicated for me. It was hard for me to maintain professional objectivity. You see, I wanted to convince Joel as well. I wanted to jump in with Leah and fight for this little family to survive.

Fortunately, I knew better.

So I privately began to teach Leah the techniques I’m going to share with you today. Let me show you the difference between convincing your ex versus triggering the right kind of feelings.
The easiest way for me to illustrate the difference between convincing your ex and triggering feelings is to offer you a simple list of do’s and don’ts. So let’s get right to it.

Don’t Do This:
Don’t argue that he owes you an explanation since you know he still has feelings for you.
Don’t tell him the relationship was going just fine and then try to get him to own his share of the blame for why things began to fall apart.
Don’t imply he owes you something after all you’ve been through together.
Don’t tell him real relationships take work and he needs to grow up.
Don’t try to prove you shared something special by forcing him to acknowledge specific examples from your past.

All that telling, convincing, and arguing will get you nowhere. In fact, it will simply reinforce the painful emotions that are driving him away from you in the first place.
Why? Because his brain will automatically come up with counter arguments.

For example, if you tell him things were great in the past, he will immediately test the truth of that assertion by scanning his memories for contradictory evidence. He’ll think of the fights, the frustrations, and other low points.

He’ll mention those problems. And this will reinforce your efforts to convince. You’ll end up showing him your worst side. Angry. Desperate. And if that goes on too long, you’ll become bitter, resentful, and maybe even sarcastic.

You know it’s true. This is how we all react when something matters to us deeply but the other person refuses to be convinced. This is not what I want for you to show him. Don’t try to convince.
Instead, let his emotions do the work for you.

Do this: (I’ll explain each of these briefly after listing the techniques.)
Build a private line of communication.
Use private flirting but not broadcast flirting.
Be vulnerable about struggles interfering with your goals.
Throw rocks at his enemies.
Make time your servant.
Build a Private Line of Communication

Here your goal is simple. Completely eliminate any communication via channels where others can observe his responses to you. Then ensure you have at least one private method for communicating with him directly. Text messaging is the most common method for achieving this.

Why not communicate on social media channels like Facebook? Because privacy releases him from the human compulsion to remain consistent. We don’t like to appear inconsistent. Psychologists call this “the consistency bias.” Once we have publicly committed to something (like a breakup) we feel foolish showing any sign that we are wavering or may have even made the wrong decision.

So your job is to completely remove that threat by eliminating any communication in public settings.

Don’t talk to him in front of the kids. Don’t talk to him in front of your friends or his friends. Don’t ask him to meet you in a public place for coffee and a chat.

He won’t even notice you’re not communicating with him publicly. Without realizing why, he’ll feel more open to exploring where things could go with you.

Just send him a pleasant message once every four or five days. Something you knew he would find interesting, funny, or exciting. Nothing about your relationship. No convincing.

Only send the kinds of messages that gradually condition him to expect that pleasurable little rush of dopamine you get when you open your favorite email newsletter or text messages from a friend who is good at making you laugh.

Don’t demand any kind of response. Just keep the doors of communication open.

Use Private Flirting but Not Broadcast Flirting

I wrote an entire article on this one powerful concept. For now, I’ll just share this simple explanation.

Broadcast flirting is on display for everyone to see.

When a woman uses broadcast flirting, everyone around can see what she’s up to.

For example, it’s broadcast flirting when Debbie laughs at all Daniel’s jokes at the office party and purposefully compliments him in front of others. Exclusive flirting is different.
Think of it like an exclusive club. There are only two people in the club, and the two people share something exclusive.

This is another reason your private line of communication is a must. You need an avenue to bring up insiders-only stuff like an inside joke or a reference to a funny moment only the two of you would remember.

Any message like that evokes the right kinds of emotion. It evokes the emotions that naturally arise from feeling part of something special. No convincing is needed.

Be Vulnerable about Struggles and Goals

Once your private line of communication is up and running, it’s time to step things up a notch.

Many brilliant people have talked about the power of vulnerability, including Brené Brown who has recently popularized the concept while helping us all to understand its true power. But I have a more specific purpose in mind for you.

If you are honest about goals you care about, and the struggles that block your way, it naturally triggers his hero instinct. It increases the chances that he’ll want to come to your rescue in big or small ways.

And for men, being someone’s hero is romantic in ways that are hard for women to understand. It tugs at an ancient instinct all of us men share.

Throw Rocks at His Enemies

It sounds cruel, but I mean it metaphorically. We all want someone to have our back. We all crave validation more than we are willing to admit.

And guess what? Your private line of communication is the perfect opportunity for him to complain about anyone or anything that’s getting in his way.

When it comes to your ex, this is an ideal opportunity to put “the respect principle” to work.

The respect principle is the main topic of the downloadable relationship course that first made me famous as a relationship coach. Thousands of women have taken my course and used the respect principle to bring out the best in their man.

Simply put, men confuse the emotional sensations they get from love and respect. And if forced to choose, they would rather feel respected than loved.

So when the frustrated text arrives, recognize it as the golden opportunity it is. Because we will do anything for someone who validates our frustration and takes our side when we are feeling insecure.

Give him the impression that you hold him in high esteem relative to other men. He’ll love you for it even if he’s not ready to admit it.

Make Time Your Servant

Waiting is hard. Especially when you fear his heart may be taken by another woman at any minute.

But feeling pressured to fix things fast is one of the worst culprits when it comes to my clients pushing men into a corner and inadvertently triggering his instinct to fight or flee.

Don’t let time pressure be a master. Instead, make time your servant. Make it work for you.

The key to accomplishing that is to recognize that time is on your side. He’s already pulled away from you. That’s done. Now you need time on your side because it works day and night to gradually break down the emotional walls he built up against the idea of getting back together with you.

Give a man and a woman enough time together, and something’s bound to spark romantic feelings eventually. Give it enough time, and your private line of communication will eventually present you with an opportunity to see each other again face-to-face.

When that opportunity arises to spend time in person, here’s what you’re going to do. Make long, deep eye contact. Less talking, more silence.

Silence carries great power between lovers. It speaks louder than words and often evokes emotion in ways that bypass the barriers of words.

Plus, sustaining eye contact while thinking loving thoughts toward him will cause your pupils to dilate. Humans subconsciously notice this small change and it triggers reciprocal feelings of attraction.

So use periods of long, sustained eye contact. Make him wonder what you are thinking. Let his imagination do the work.

While you’re at it, it helps to wear something new and different. It helps to differentiate the woman from his past and the woman standing in front of him now. If you have the opportunity, show up in something he’s never seen you wear before.

I understand your situation is unique. Some of my suggestions may not apply. Despite that, I hope you will find opportunities to use this understanding of the difference between convincing and evoking the right feelings in the man you love.

To your happy future,
James

P.S. I’d love to help you rekindle the romance with your ex. If you’d like to see how, follow this link or checkout my presentation below.

5 WARNING Signs Your Husband Wants A Divorce (Can You Prevent It?)!

The signs were all there… but you ignored them. And now, it’s almost too late. Here’s what you ignored and what can you do to repair and reverse the damage and prevent the D-word from coming up ever again!

If your marriage is ‘on the rocks’ and you’re worried that your spouse is thinking about asking for a divorce, then this article is for you. I’ll explain a few signs to look for that indicate your husband is thinking about divorce, and I’ll tell you how to stop it and how to begin repairing your marriage.

So, let’s dive into the first sign to look for…

Sign #1 – Arguing Over Anything & Everything.

Yes, it’s no secret that an increase in the frequency and intensity of arguments with your partner are a clear indication that all is not well with your marriage. Now, don’t panic here just because you and your spouse are fighting a few times a week… every married couple will disagree and have conflicts from time to time, and it’s actually a healthy thing to argue now and then as long as they lead to resolutions or don’t leave lingering hard feelings.

When those arguments become daily occurrences, and tend to arise over almost anything, then that’s when things get a bit more dicey. For example, if you arriving 5 minutes late for a dinner date turns into a massive screaming match and results in both of you going to bed angry for the third time in a week, then that’s a problem. These kinds of arguments, if they happen frequently and tend to blow small grievances or disagreements way out of proportion, can indicate that your marriage is headed in the wrong direction.

Most of the time, couples who argue too often but have otherwise healthy marriages can repair this problem relatively easily. In simple terms, if you and your spouse fight too much or argue often over small issues, you need to learn how to prevent the useless arguments and have more important disagreements in a more civilized and constructive manner.

Click here to watch the “3 Secrets To Saving Your Marriage” video with tips on how to argue more effectively (and much more — it’s well worth watching).

Now, another and potentially more serious indication of an unhealthy marriage is when one or both of you stops trying to resolve conflict at all. Which leads me to the next point….

Sign #2 – No Longer Willing To Resolve Conflict or Find Solutions.

If your partner seems to no longer care about the outcome of a fight, or if they seem to feel as though trying to find a solution to your problems is pointless or hopeless, then that can be a clear indication of deeper troubles. When this kind of despair sets in, your partner may withdraw further and feel as though there will never be a way for the two of you to live together in peace. That’s obviously not a good thing, and it’s something that you need to work on if this has become a problem in your marriage.

Sign #3 – Lack of Emotional Connection and Withdrawal of Affection.

If your husband has become distant and stopped showing affection towards you, that can also be a strong indication that they’re mentally checking out of the marriage. Often associated with this is an overall lack of emotional connection and a lack of willingness to discuss or show feelings and emotions.

In my experience, this is one of the most obvious signs that a marriage is headed in the wrong direction. Usually, though, it’s more a symptom than a root problem, and resolving the core issues of your marriage can usually help re-build the emotional connection and lead your spouse to begin showing affection again.

If you’re seeing this symptom as well as some of the others on this list, start taking action to stop the degradation of your marriage. Watch this video right now to learn about 3 techniques that will help you repair your relationship (even if your husband isn’t interested at the moment).

Sign #4 – Rarely or never having sex.

Sex can be symptom of other problems in your marriage — if you’re always fighting and there’s no emotional connection, the sex is going to disappear as well.

But it can also be a problem of its own and lead to a marriage crisis, whether it’s caused by fading attraction or a low sex drive.

Either way, a sexless marriage is almost always a marriage on the fast track to divorce, so if your spouse seems uninterested in sex or makes excuses, that’s a clear indication of problems.

Sign #5 – Your spouse is absent more often or seems pre-occupied.

If your partner is staying out late more often, and showing less interest in family and spending time together, that may be an indication that they are either unhappy with the situation at home. It may also be that they’re preparing mentally for life apart, building a social life or possibly even dating. Hopefully that’s not the case, and don’t prematurely accuse your spouse of this just because they’re home less often, but it is a possibility.

Simply put, if you’re spending less time with your husband than you have in the past or if he seems distant and pre-occupied when you are spending time together, that can be a clear sign of a spouse mentally struggling with the decision to end a marriage.

Next Steps: Where to go from here…

First, let’s make one thing clear: just because your partner is exhibiting a couple of the behaviors that I just talked about doesn’t mean that they’re definitely planning to file for divorce. It may simply be that these are indicators of trouble ahead in your marriage. But if you’ve seen several of these indicators in your spouse recently, and you’re feeling that things aren’t on track with your marriage, I encourage you to act to turn things around now before matters get any worse.

The best place to start is by watching this free video by marriage guru Brad Browning… he explains where you’ve been going wrong and what you need to do to make your husband fall back in love with you.

Click here to watch the video now, before it’s taken down.

HELP ME Save My Marriage!

HELP ME Save My Marriage Please!

Each year in America alone, nearly 1 million marriages end in divorce.This is an incredible number! That would be as if all the citizens of Houston Texas were divorced (each divorce leaves 2 people).

The question is how many of those marriages could be saved. Unfortunately, that is an invisible number. If your marriage stays together, it is hard to find in the statistics. As Marian Wright Edelman wrote, statistics are stories with the tears washed off.

Can your marriage be saved? If I could answer that, I would be a wealthy man. I can tell you that if your marriage is in trouble and you do nothing, the outcome is guaranteed. If you do something, there is a much better chance that your marriage will be saved.

And I can tell you, in four simple steps what you can do to save your marriage. You can start right now. But you must understand that I said “simple.” That is not the same as “easy.” These steps are not easy. They do, however, give you a path that you must follow if you want to change the destiny of a marriage in trouble.

Here are the 4 steps:

1) Quit the blame game. Stop blaming your spouse and stop blaming yourself. This is the first step because marriages get frozen into a pattern of blame that immobilizes any prospect of progress. Instead, the momentum gets dragged down and down.

Blame is our way of avoiding seeing ourselves clearly. It is much easier to point the finger somewhere and say “It’s their fault.” But in marriage, you can just as easily turn that pointing finger on yourself and place the blame there, saying “it’s all my fault.”

Unfortunately, blame feels good in the short-term, but in the long-term, it prevents any shift or change. So, even if you can make a long list of why you or your spouse should be blamed, forget it. Even if that list is factual, it will not help you put your marriage back together. Blame is the fuel of divorces.

2) Take responsibility. Decide you can do something. Change always begins with one person who wants to see a change. Understand that taking responsibility is not the same as taking the blame (see above).

Instead, blame is saying “regardless of who is at fault, there are some things I can do differently, and I am going to do them.” What buttons do you allow your spouse to push? What buttons do you push with your spouse? Decide not to allow those buttons to be pushed and stop pushing the buttons.

What amazes me in my counseling is that everyone knows what they should be doing or not doing. But it is difficult to move in that direction. Don’t be caught in that. Decide that you will take action.

The difference between blame and responsibility is this: if I am in a burning building, I can stand around trying to figure out who started the blaze, why it has spread so quickly, and who I am going to sue when it is over (blame), or I can get myself and anyone else I can out of that building (taking responsibility). When a marriage is in trouble, the house is on fire. How will you take action to save the marriage?

3) Get resources from experts. If others have been helped, you can be, too. Experts with a great deal more perspective and experience can be a real help in these situations. Do your research and divide the useless from the useful, then take advantage of the useful.

Don’t assume that your situation is so different from every other situation. I can tell you that after 20-some years of providing therapy, not too much new comes through my doors. Don’t get me wrong; the story changes, but the dynamics are the same.

Remember what Albert Einstein said, “The significant problems we have cannot be solved at the same level of thinking with which we created them.” In other words, what got you into trouble will not get you out of trouble. That requires a whole new level of thinking. And that is what you get from an outside expert, someone with a fresh perspective.

4) Take action. More damage is done by doing nothing by taking a misstep. It is too easy to get paralyzed by the situation. Therapists often talk about “analysis paralysis.” This occurs when people get so caught up in their churning thoughts and attempts to “figure things out” that they never take action.

It is not enough to simply understand what is causing the problem. You must then act! On a daily basis, I find people coming to my office with the belief that if they can just understand their problem, it will resolve itself. That simply does not happen. Resolution of the situation takes action.

Will your marriage be saved? If you follow my suggestions, you have infinitely more opportunity for saving your marriage than if you do nothing. Marriage is one of those places where it takes two to make it work, but only one to really mess things up. You can only do your part, but many times, that is enough. Resolve not to ask the question but to begin to act.

Are you ready to take action? Grab the best-selling resource on the internet for saving marriages: Click Here to Save Your Marriage! (Even if you’re the only one trying to save it!)

– Dr. Lee H. Baucom PhD

Lee Baucom, Ph.D. has been happily married for 22 years, and has two children. Lee is devoted to his family, and sees that as inspiration for his own work with families trying to find health.

Lee is a 22 year veteran of marriage therapy. His training has been in marriage and family therapy, earning two Master’s degrees and a Ph.D. in the area. He has also completed specialty training in Community Building, as well as in Personal and Life Coaching.

He is an experienced facilitator of health and healing for individuals, couples, families, and organizations. This experience has given Lee a different perspective on why couples have problems, and what the solutions are for these problems.

How Do You Get Him to Make The First Move & Kiss You First?

bobby k here…

You know that relationship advice guy Michael Fiore who helped share Claire Casey with you? Well he’s written this article you’ll probably HAVE TO read . . .

It’s called “The Kiss Signal No Man Can Ignore” and it tells you EXACTLY what to do to let a guy know you want him to kiss you (without you having to make the first move) . . .


Sub: How to let him know he should kiss you (right now) . . .

Hey, it’s Mike Fiore with your weekly Digital Romance Newsletter.

In this week’s issue we’re going to dive deep into the whacky world of KISSING and I’m going to give you a simple 3-step “trick” you can use to let a guy know he should STOP TALKING AND FREAKING KISS YOU ALREADY . . .

But first . . .

Speaking of kissing, I just put up this new video for you:

I call this my “How To Kiss A Man To Make Him Fall In Love” video (click the link) because that’s what it tells you how to do . . . how to kiss a man with so much passion, power and feminine vulnerability he feels his heart cracking open the moment your lips touch his.

(Yes, I know that is a HUGE promise, but it’ll all make sense when you watch the video.)

And now . . .

How To Let Him Know You Want To Be Kissed

Jenny asks:

“Mike, I love your stuff so much but I need your HELP. See, I’ve been two dates with this guy I really like and he STILL hasn’t kissed me. I don’t know what to do. I think I’ve made it really obvious that I’m interested (why would I go on a second date otherwise?) and he’s a really great guy. Should I just grab him and kiss him? Why is he so nervous? Does this mean he doesn’t actually like me?”

Hi Jenny,

Great question and I’m glad you asked it. (It’s so nice having a question that’s a bit “lighter” than the typical “everything in my life is falling apart” variety I usually get.)

Let’s just take your questions one at a time (and in an order of my choosing) . . .

1. Why is he so nervous?

You know, in the 7 years I’ve been doing this relationship advice thing it’s never failed to shock me how clueless women are at how INCREDIBLY FRIGHTENING you are to men.

Yes, yes, I know that YOU think you’re just sweet and approachable and have no idea why big, burly men would be terrified of you but that’s because you don’t have a penis.

The fact is to the vast majority of guys (guys who aren’t “players” anyway) being REJECTED by a woman (especially a woman we really like) is one of the most agonizing experiences of our lives.

And the fact that YOU as a woman have the POWER to make us feel such excruciating pain makes you TERRIBLY SCARY to a lot of guys.

Add in the fact that guys are generally completely clueless at picking up signals your average woman would think were as subtle as a air raid siren and it’s a recipe for a whole bunch of missed “kissing connections.”

What I’m saying is, the reason he’s so nervous (and it sounds like he really is nervous – nothing else nefarious or weird is going on here) is because:

A. He DOES like you and he’s letting the fact that he likes you mess with his head. I’ve been in this position before and if he’s anything like me (or how I was years ago, I guess) his internal narrative is something along the lines of “I want to kiss her. Does she want me to kiss her? What if I do it wrong? How does she like to be kissed? Man, is this the moment? Is this? How about now? DAMMIT, I think I missed it.”

And then he goes home and gets on the internet and looks at a bunch of “How to know if she wants to be kissed” articles. =-)

B. He knows first kisses are IMPORTANT and that whether there’s “chemistry” in that first kiss or not has a FREAKISH impact on whether you’re ever going to want to see him again.

C. He doesn’t know with absolute certainty if you want him to kiss you and the idea that you might NOT want him to (and that you might pull away, get angry or put him in the “Friend Zone” when you make a move) has him suffering from terrible KISSING PARALYSIS.

Oh, and there’s a 4th reason he’s nervous that I only reveal in my “How To Kiss A Man To Make Him Fall In Love” video because I honestly can’t explain it here.

2. So what do you DO to get him to get over his fear and hesitation and actually kiss you?

Great question and I’ll answer it right after I say this important thing:

IMPORTANT THING: Whatever you do, do not make the first move to kiss HIM . . .

Yes, I know it’s 2017 and this is “Old School” but as a guy myself I can tell you that when a woman makes the first move it just messes with every masculine part of me in a way that FREAKS me out. (Remind me to tell you about the time a butch lesbian tried to hit on me like I was a girl. It was WEIRD.)

OK, now that that’s out of the way, let’s lay out EXACTLY how to let a guy know you want him to kiss you (without feeling like you’re making the first move or acting like a “slut” or anything AT ALL.)

We’re going to start with the relatively SUBTLE way of letting a guy know and move on up to “Hit him with a hammer” type methods depending how clueless the guy is.

1. Focus on his lips:

During your date, let him catch you looking at his lips, then his eyes, then his lips again while smiling slightly.

As an added bonus, you can let him catch you staring at his mouth and then look away bashfully like you didn’t “want” to get caught. That kind of “shy coyness” is a classic kissing signal that will let bolder guys know you’re ready to be kissed.

Licking your own lips (like you are wetting them to get ready for a kiss) also works wonders.

2. Wait for “Kissing Moments” and don’t “retreat.”

You’ve seen these meet cute “kissing moments” all the time in movies. It’s when the hero and heroine get flung across the room by an explosion or whatever and end up laying in a pile on the ground with their faces just INCHES away. They stare into each other’s eyes. They move imperceptibly closer . . . and then the monster comes lunging out of the darkness and the moment is lost.

If you guys are getting “cuddly” at all during a date there are going to be times when your mouths end up in super close proximity.

Now, whatever you do, when these moments happen, don’t push your head forward and kiss him. You want him to COME TO YOU and feel like he made a CHOICE to kiss you (which will make him fell all manly.)

Instead, when those moments happen and you’re within a few inches of him (when you go to give him a hug, when you’re drunkenly leaning on his shoulder, whatever) don’t “back up.” Hold his gaze, look from his lips to his eyes, lick your lips lightly and let your jaw relax like you’re Paris Hilton doing her “pouty girl” pose (you know, the only pose she knows. Whatever happened to her anyway?)

3. Use “Cute and Coy” kiss me phrases.

If a guy just isn’t taking the hint with the more “Subtle” methods its time to actually use some words.

Now, again, YOU DO NOT WANT TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. You’re not going to ask him to kiss you or anything like that (that just takes away your feminine power.)

Instead, you need to wait for or create conversational moments that can lead to you letting him know with 100% certainty that you want him to kiss you, but in a humorous way.

For instance:

* You stare off into space for a second. He asks “What are you thinking about?” and you smile at him say “Oh, I was just wondering what it’s going to feel like when you kiss me.”

* At a certain point in the date, after he’s impressed you enough to know he’s not some random d-bag just look him in the eye with a smile and say “You can kiss me if you want.”

* Start a conversation about kissing. Say “I just love kissing so much. I heard from this guy Michael Fiore that a kiss is a conversation and you can learn so much about somebody by the way they kiss . . .”

Then look at him with a pregnant and meaningful pause while looking at his mouth, then his eyes, then his mouth.

And that’s that. What you’ll notice is that even though you are flat out letting him know you want him to kiss you you’re still leaving him “In control” of the kiss (and letting him keep his masculine ego.)

Got it?

Great!!

Of course, getting him to kiss you is just the start. You also need to know HOW to kiss him in a way that makes fireworks go off in his mind and have him fantasizing about making him yours and only yours forever.

Which is why I want you to stop whatever you’re doing and go watch my “How To Kiss A Man To Make Him Fall In Love” video RIGHT NOW.

It’s really good.

I’m proud of it.

Here’s the link again:

==> http://clairecasey.com/howtokiss2.html <==

Best,

Mike

P.S. There’s a lie about kissing almost all women fall for that has sabotaged every serious relationship you’ve ever had. Do you know what it is?

Watch the video to find out.

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Well, what do you think? Better yet, try out Mikes advice and let me know how it went… (^_-)

Thanks for reading and do watch the video mentioned in the article,

bobby k

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